What I learnt this week… it’s your choice

It’s your choice… you can decide who you will be and what you will do with your life!

I’ve had two huge revelations over this past week:

  • It’s your choice.
  • If you want to change your life, start with who you are and work from there.

Let me expand a bit more on both of my revelations.

It’s your choice!

A few weeks ago, I started a new online nutrition course called Eating Less with Gillian Riley. It’s not about dieting or losing weight (which never was my style), but it’s about your relationship to food and your mindset.

In the last webinar we talked about CHOICE and we’ve learnt that it’s our choice to eat or not to eat anything or everything. We’re not prisoners who have restricted access to food and we have to comply with whatever is served to us. We are in charge of our own decisions and we can choose to eat everything and anything we want.

This lesson was a huge eye-opener for me, not only from the perspective of healthy eating, but life and business in general. Your life/business is in your hands and you have the choice to do anything and everything.

If you stand in front of a difficult decision, you can break it down to baby steps and make your choice just for now. Most of the time you can make another choice later on if you’re not happy with the outcomes of your first choice. At the end of the day, you are in charge or your life/business!

The outcome of your actions depends on your mindset and on your decisions. Do you see how much power you have?


Talking about mindset, I was listening again to the ep. 114 [How To Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind For Automatic And Lasting High Performance] of the Mind Your Business Podcast with James Wedmore and Jim Fortin, as I wanted to revisit some of the eye-opening ideas they present in this episode.

In this episode, they talk about reprogramming your subconscious mind, which in dummy terms (for me) means changing mindset (but starting at the core level). Jim talked a lot about how the brain works, where our habits live and where we usually make the mistake when trying to change.

People usually start with doing. To change our lives we usually decide to do something – read a book, do an online course, make a new plan or stop eating certain foods. But according to Jim, this isn’t how our brain works and people who focus on having and doing first often fail.

He suggests starting at the core level of being – who you are is affecting what you do, how you feel and ultimately what you have. So if you want to have a successful business that makes a lot of money, you need to be a successful entrepreneur who has an abundance of money in their life in the first place. The trick is, that you actually don’t need to be this person in real life – you just need to believe that you are, you need to condition your subconscious mind to see the future result.

Vision vs reality

One of the most powerful sentences mentioned in this podcast is: “Who would I be, what would I do, how would I feel if I already had…” [fill the blank with whatever you are aspiring to]? Think about this for a moment – who would you be and what would you do if you’d already made X amount of money, or lost x amount of weight, or started your own business as you’ve always dreamed of. How would it make you feel?

It turns out that there’s one magical work hiding in the sentence above – and it’s ‘ALREADY’. Apparently, our subconscious brain is not able to differentiate between the reality of what’s now and between the vision of our reality that’s in our mind. That’s why when you visualise and truly believe that you are a successful business owner and you act according to this self-image – you’ll experience success as your brain is conditioned that way and you have no other way! Powerful stuff, isn’t it?

I might not be explaining this really clearly, so please give this podcast episode a listen and let me know your thoughts on this concept.

Also, I’d love to repeat these 6 words, as they are really powerful if you get their true meaning: ‘You are where your attention is’.

This takes us back to the first revelation in full circle! Remember, it’s your choice to be, do and have anything you want from life and business!

Cooking something new (wait for it)!

These two major learnings also helped me a lot to clarify my vision. I’ve been working a lot on my new branding (taking my current brand to the next level) and I spent a lot of time thinking about the purpose of my business and my business values.

Even though I used to have a pretty good idea who my ideal customers are, I managed to get even more specific and come up with a clear brand that will stand out and attract the right customers. I’ll keep you informed on the process of rebranding – I’d also love to hear your thoughts!

How about you? What have you learnt about yourself, your business or the world over the past week or so? Share some wisdom nuggets with others in comments or tweet me at @lenkakopp.

Book Corner

Over the weekend I’ve also started listening to Brene Brown’s Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone. Belonging (and feeling that I don’t belong) is one of on me ongoing challenges. You might remember reading about my issues with ‘not fitting in’ earlier and it’s still a major theme in my life.

There are many powerful quotes in this book, but this one is probably my favourite:

“True belonging is the spiritual practice of believing in and belonging to yourself so deeply that you can share your most authentic self with the world and find sacredness in both being a part of something and standing alone in the wilderness. True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are.”

What have you been reading recently? I’d love to get some inspiration for future reading from you!