What I learnt this week… dealing with New Year’s Blues

So, 2018 is finally here. And even though I don’t usually set myself any New Year’s resolutions – as I believe that you should take an action when you feel like you want to change something – I have high expectations of what the New Year will bring for me personally and business-wise.

My 2017 ended on a really high note. I’ve had the best year yet and I’ve got loads of ideas and plans for 2018.

One of these plans is to slow down and focus more on self-care, while my other plans are all about scaling up my business and conquering the world. As you can see, these goals don’t complement each other too well.

Focus on self-care, now!

Sometimes, even though we think that we’re taking enough action to change things we would like to improve, it’s not good enough. That’s often my case when it comes to self-care.

I regularly set myself an intention to focus more on my health, but as life goes on, my intention starts to vanish. Luckily (said in a sarcastic voice), my body has a way of forcing me to slow down and pay more attention – is usually pushes me over, so I literally can’t run away.

Something similar happened at the beginning of this year. I was moving house and everything was going well. I managed to declutter my closet and give away lots of clothes and other stuff I didn’t needed to a charity. Then, when I was unpacking in my new home, thinking about my vision for 2018 and my plans to take over the world, I missed a step and found myself flying down the stairs.

I sprained my ankle, scratched a knee and bruised many parts of my body… unfortunately, the physical damage wasn’t the worst part. This accident caught me completely off guard and threw me completely into pieces.

The world won’t fall apart if you slow down for a moment

My body literally forced me to take my own words seriously – to slow down and focus on self-care. So there I was lying in my bed, with my foot elevated and ankle covered with frozen peas. Not unable to work on my laptop, but completely unable to focus, to decide where to start and to find the smallest piece of motivation to do something, anything.

I was spending a lot of time on social media, watching other people’s videos and posts about learnings from 2017, their predictions for 2018 and New Year’s resolutions and I felt shit. I also had ideas for these types of posts, but I couldn’t convince myself to do anything. I couldn’t focus, I didn’t know where to start and I had no idea how to stand out and add value.

A few days later, I managed to force myself to sit in front of a camera and share a short 5-minute video. I shared a bit of my story – my struggles and a request for some feedback. I got an amazing response and lots of support from people in my network and their feedback helped me get going again.

You can watch the video here if you haven’t already seen it on my social media.

Book Corner

When I was lying in my bed with frozen peas on my ankle, I needed something simple to occupy my mind. I tried working, listening to podcasts, writing, but I couldn’t concentrate.

Then I reached for one of the best books I’ve ever read: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R. Covey. It’s simple reading, but really persuasive and truly life-changing.

Here are just some of the many amazing quotes I found in this book:

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”

“It’s not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.”

“Habit is the intersection of knowledge (what to do), skill (how to do), and desire (want to do).”

Have you read this book? I’d love to know what lessons you’ve found the most helpful!